We learn never to give up, never to compromise our dreams but does that mean we cannot change them? What if we decide that our dream is not OUR dream anymore but someone else’s? What if we realise that it has never been OURS or if we set new goals ahead? How does it happen and why? What happens to our previous dreams then?
When I was around four years old, Michael Jackson was huge and I wanted to be his wife more than anything. Dallas kicked in around the same time and then I wanted to be just like Victoria Principal. Later Spice Girls ruled my primary school years and we formed an indigo band, went from stage to stage to perform their songs and dance the choreography we put together.
It was the same thing whenever I tried some new sport: kick-box, jazz-ballet, basketball, aerobics, handball, hip-hop dancing, kung-fu… I always wanted to work in whatever the actual sport was for the rest of my life. Does this mean that I am a flag? Floating where the wind blows me? Or could it mean that I have really enjoyed all of these things?
When I was 17, I was asked to teach hip-hop to two groups in the dance school I attended and since then, I have been teaching dance and/or aerobics. That time I thought I would definitely be a choreographer and as my love for motorbikes grew as well, I wanted to put shows together to open MotoGPs and get Valentino Rossi’s attention so that he can take me for a ride
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One morning, riding my wee moped to school though, I crashed and injured my knee. Years later they found out that I had a heart condition as well so I could say goodbye to dancing professionally. I was devastated but did not want to give up. The show must go on.
With an entrepreneur-spirit I moved on coming up with new ideas: I turned to my poetry as I have been writing poems since I was 15. I thought I would get them published and then I realised no one cared for poetry anymore so I thought about submitting them as song lyrics which is not as easy as it sounds.
Then I turned to studying, was accepted to several universities to attend different courses: Astronomy, Italian, English, Economics, Film History, Physics, Film Studies and Gaelic, PR, and Journalism. Meanwhile I also finished some NVQs in Marketing and Advertising, Sports Coaching (Aerobics) and started a Beauty Therapy course multiple times.
Every single one of these interested me for a while. I spent as much time studying them as I was willing to spend. The necessary time to learn what these professions were all about and then quit as they were not fascinating or important enough. I did this until I finally accepted that the only thing I could be passionate about was family. Bringing up children, teaching them, caring for them. After all these years of learning and searching, thinking there was something wrong with me I realised that I just wanted to be a wife and a mother.
However, if you are not 16 and drunk, getting pregnant is not that easy. Not for me, at least so I had to work out a plan that would be satisfying enough until this dream could become reality and that is when I attended an ice-hockey match. I felt the same rush I felt when I was playing basketball, having more adrenaline working in me than there was in the players. I fell in love again and I thought about Marco’s death and what MotoGP and the sport itself meant to me and discovered the beauty of Sports Journalism.
This is not the end of the road, I reckon
but does this make me an indecisive person or a multitasker? Am I bringing shame to the emancipated, careerist approach of the 21st century? And if so, is that really a problem? Who decides what dreams are normal and who can say one is more important than the other? If our dreams, our goals change from time to time (maybe not as much as mine) what happens to our previous desires? Do they die or just change into something else, something new? Are we allowed to say that we would love to do this and that one day and think totally differently about it the next?
Why could not we?














